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You know, just when I start to think, 'hey, maybe my job's not so bad. Maybe I could stand to stay here for a few more months, see if I can last the whole year to get that all-important 1 year of experience..', one of my bosses has to open their big fat mouth and suddenly it's job-hunting time again. Why can't they just *not*. My mother taught me that if you don't have anything nice to say, you shouldn't say anything at all. Their mothers clearly didn't.

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kangaruth.livejournal.com

I know how you feel. I just start thinking, only two more years, not that long... When somebody says something and I think "Why am I doing this?"

Maybe not exactly the same thing, since nobody is being mean to me. Your boss doesn't sound pleasant. Tell her (him?) s/he'd better be nice or s/he'll upset Dr World.

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emony.livejournal.com

Sometimes I think it's just a "grass is always greener" thing, and that no matter what you're doing, other stuff looks like it'd be better, because what you're doing has downsides, and what you imagine yourself doing - be it a job or studying or staying at home and popping out kids - has no downsides because it's a fantasy version of life. But then there's another barrage of criticism and I think well, maybe some other job *would* be better, if only because I wouldn't get told fifteen hundred times a day how useless I am at everything. *sigh* I'd cut my legs off and sell them to medical science for the chance to do a Ph.D. But no one funds arts Ph.D.s and I'm too dumb for a science one, sadly. Oh well. Back to the grindstone. One hour to go.

From:

kangaruth.livejournal.com

You're right, of course, because everywhere you work there's going to be somebody you don't like, or something that doesn't work the way it ought to, or somebody who is doing something better. Constant critisism is pretty hard to take, though, especially if you're trying your best.

sorrowful_eagle, one of my friends from home, was in a similar situation a few years ago, eventually quit and has now met the man of her dreams and found her vocation (she's on a nursery nursing course).

I think it's a shame the way that PhD funding is so difficult to get if you're an arts student because I knew a couple of people at uni who worked so hard for a remote chance of one, and failed entirely to get it. However, I'm under a lot of obligation to my funding body - they insist I go to various events, schools, etc, and that I spend a year at CERN - so I guess that's the downside. I also have to finish in three years, or pay my own way, which is an awful lot of pressure, especially when things aren't progressing.

I'm a firm believer, though, that everything will turn out fine in the end. If you quit now and find a better job that will be great. If you stick it out maybe your boss will leave, or you'll get promoted, or you'll get the experience you need for your dream job and that will be great too. Even if you don't find your dream job and you leave for an even crappier one, well, you'll have learned something and can move on happily to the next job...

And I can stick out the next two years and get my PhD and be really pleased I acheived something great, or I can give it up at the end of this year and enter the job market.

Swings and roundabouts...

From:

emony.livejournal.com

I'm a firm believer, though, that everything will turn out fine in the end.

Yes, me too. We'll get there in the end, wherever there is and however we get there. Thanks :)

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nausica2.livejournal.com

Whenever certain coworker of mine opens her mouth, I have exactly the same feelings. I like what I do, though and I only have to stand her half a day.

Do what's best for you. You were looking forward to this, but if you have to be unhappy and stressed, it's not worth the effort.

(((em))))