Exactly. It's just about respecting other people's ships, and having enough faith in your own that you don't feel the need to prove them to those who disagree.

I agree absolutely on the R/T front. I was really surprised that that was what she was going for. I never expected R/S to be acknowledged canon, but I did honestly hope that it could remain unacknowledged canon. And I think it probably still can, if you look at it right. As you say, as long as JKR doesn't outright nix it, we're okay, and even then it's still going to be there for those as choose to see it. I think there's always an instinct towards some leve of wankery - it's shock and seeking comfort in those who agree with you. But it's an instinct that has to be balanced out with good sense, which for you (and, I hope, I) it has been. We might not like the R/T, but we know we've got to live with it and work around it. If comments like those made about H/Hr fans had been made about R/S fans, we'd probably feel a little different. Things will settle down soon enough, though, I think. This article will keep it going for a while longer, but once it's passed into the ether, it'll level out and things will get back to normal. I hope.